Does this count as abuse?

this is a form of abuse, yes, so you should stick up for yourself and/or talk to a school guidance counselor because if she won't stop you've got to fight back somehow. it's for your own mental/physical wellbeing. it sounds like she expects too much of you. if you don't wana cheer, don't cheer. it should be your decision. and it's your body; eat whatever you want. skinny does mean healthy. beauty is only skin deep. a girl is pretty when she is happy with who she is, when she is just being herself and not worrying constantly about gaining a few pounds. your mom should go to the therapy herself because she's the one with all the insecurities and obviously hates herself, but takes it out on you. your mom should not be treating you like this.